At Cairns Law Offices, we specializes in cheap, no-fault divorces. The one thing that makes our divorces unique is our clients are willing to work with their spouses to achieve a simple, affordable, no-fault divorce. If a couple cannot work together to reach an amicable agreement, they have to look elsewhere because avoiding litigation is how we keep costs low.
Interestingly, what works for a couple to achieve a no-fault divorce is quite similar to what works for successful co-parenting after the divorce. And, the magic ingredient doesn’t come from our law firm, it comes from the spouses themselves and is represented in how they negotiate, and how they treat each other, regardless of how they “feel” about one another.
Being Respectful Despite it All
Do we only represent friendly couples who don’t have any bigger issues? No, that is not the case at all. Like any divorce law firm, we’ve seen our share of affairs, bankruptcies,addictions, and so on. But the main difference with our cases that our clients and their spouses agree to set their differences aside and treat each other with respect so they can achieve their most important goals:
- Keep the costs of the divorce down.
- Maintain the marital estate and not waste it on litigation.
- Reduce the stress involved in the divorce process.
- Streamline the divorce process so it isn’t delayed by court dates.
You may be asking, “What does all this have to do with parenting?” A lot actually. When parents can apply the same positive attitudes and behaviors to co-parenting after the divorce, it can make a huge, but positive impact on the couple’s children and the family.
Here’s our advice to divorcing parents:
- Treat your spouse with respect, even if they don’t deserve it. Because of your children, you must deal with each other.
- Do not badmouth your spouse to the children.
- Do not badmouth your spouse on social media.
- Keep the details of your divorce private to most people. They don’t need to know who cheated, who can’t keep a clean house, or hold down a job.
- Be flexible with scheduling and expect your spouse to do the same. For instance, volunteer to watch the kids if your ex has to work.
- Be thoughtful about dating. Don’t introduce anyone new to your kids until you’re in a serious relationship.
Next: Moving Out: Child Custody Issues to Consider
When it comes to successful co-parenting after divorce, much of it comes down to kindness, forgiveness, and respect. If you can both be respectful, it will go a long way and your children should recover from the divorce better too.