No one knows how messy divorce can get quite as well as celebrities, who often undergo their splits in the public eye.
One benefit of the celebrity experience being so public is that we can all learn from it.
Demi Moore has been through 3 high-profile divorces. After her divorce from Ashton Kutcher, however, she chose to focus on her relationship with herself.
“Right now I’m focusing on my relationship with myself.”
Focusing on yourself is one of the best things you can do after divorce, and it will only benefit any relationships you have in the future.
In a post-divorce interview, Adele explained that she left her marriage to go forward, not to go backwards. As such, she did not hesitate to start dating, but she tried to keep her love life out of the public eye and focus on “dating as a grownup” and getting to know people from her past “as an adult.”
For many people, divorce is an experience that helps people grow and reassess their lives.
Like Demi Moore, Kelly Clarkson enjoyed some time to herself after her divorce from Brandon Blackstock. “I love dating me!” she told fellow divorcée Gwyneth Paltrow, who is well known for using the term, “conscious uncoupling” in reference to her split.
While Clarkson isn’t dating anyone and Paltrow has found the person she wants to grow old with, both women acknowledge that divorce was a difficult but necessary split.
Drew Barrymore spoke about dating while raising 2 young daughters. According to Drew, the priority is always her children. During one episode of her talk show, she shared that she could not imagine bringing anyone home to meet her daughters and that “it would take a very long time,” before she was ready to date seriously again.
Divorced parents should always prioritize their children and give new relationships time before taking them to the next level.
After 3 divorces, Halle Berry also decided her children were the best company and spent 3 years alone. She still imagines herself being in a relationship later on but decided to slow down and “spend time with me.”
Moving slowly is always a good idea when dating after divorce.
Following his split from Jennifer Garner, Ben Affleck focused on finding a deeply meaningful and deeply committed relationship – one he felt he could not find on dating apps like Tinder and Bumble. Affleck briefly dated Ana de Armas before getting back together with his ex-fiancée Jennifer Lopez.
Knowing what you want after a divorce is extremely important.
Angelina Jolie had one of the most memorable – and difficult – divorce cases we can remember in recent years. Now, she has “a very long list of no’s” for anyone she would potentially date.
Having high standards for your partners is a good idea after divorce.
Mary J. Blige
Like Ben Affleck, Mary J. Blige was not interested in dating apps after her split. Instead, she decided to be “alone for a little while.” She also did not stray away from the suffering her split caused.
Sitting with pain and discomfort can be important for growth and strength after a difficult divorce.
Three divorces and some broken engagements later, Jennifer Lopez realized her relationship problems “didn’t have to do with anybody else but me.”
She had to learn to love herself before she felt capable of completely loving someone else in a way that was pure and true. Perhaps this is why she’s giving things with Ben Affleck another chance.
Loving yourself is one of the most crucial steps you can take for yourself and your future relationships after a divorce.
Following her splits from Brad Pitt and Justin Theroux, Jennifer Aniston took time to focus on work. Instead of seeking out romance, Aniston plans to welcome love when it “comes knocking.”
Focusing on your career or things that are important to you can help you move forward after a divorce.
The time after her highly publicized divorce from Tom Cruise was not easy for Nicole Kidman. She experienced a period of depression while working on the film, The Hours.
A few years later, she met and fell in love with Keith Urban.
Even in the darkest moments of divorce, there is always hope.
Start Thinking About You
All the celebrities who shared their stories about divorce and dating emphasized common themes: use divorce to focus on yourself and your loved ones, dive into your career, and think about what you do and do not want in a partner moving forward.
Divorce is a difficult time, but it doesn’t mean you have to give up on love.
The sooner you make the decision to turn the page, the sooner you can begin writing your new chapter and creating a future you can be proud of.
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