Remarriage can be absolutely wonderful, especially if your first marriage went down in flames. Many of our clients view remarriage as their second chance to get things right, as their second chance at true love. However, if you’re going through a divorce, it’s important to consider how remarriage will impact your life, especially when the divorce is still fresh.
You’ve probably heard about “rebound relationships.” Often, someone will break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend or they’ll get a divorce and they’ll rush into a new relationship. Why do people do this so often? Two common reasons why people jump into new relationships is the fear they’ll never fall in love again and loneliness. If you’re seeking a new forever mate, what matters most is that you’re actually ready to dive into another serious relationship.
Taking Time for Self-Discovery
When you divorce, it’s very important to carve out some time for self-discovery, especially if you were in a long marriage. As you spend some alone time, you’ll learn more about yourself since certain aspects of you are probably going to change. As you experience life as a single person, as an individual instead of another half of a couple, you’ll find new parts of you slowly begin to emerge.
Some recently divorce individuals find themselves eager to remarry. Some of them get very lonely and just don’t feel right if they’re not in a relationship. If you feel eager to enter into a new relationship, realize it’s important not to rush it and to take your time. One reason is that while first marriages have a 50 percent chance of divorce, the divorce rate is even higher for second marriages, especially if someone jumps from one marriage to another in short succession.
Remarriage & Blended Families
Since there are so many divorced folks, remarriage often impacts stepchildren. If you’re a parent who is ready to walk down the aisle again, consider how your children feel about it. Are they supportive or do they have problems with it? Our advice is, to be honest with your children and ask them about their feelings.
For your second marriage to be happy and healthy, your new blended family should all get along in a stable household. While your mate may not love your children the way you do, you should expect your partner and your children to like each other and get along. If not, it’s a recipe for disaster.
In many cases, remarrying is a bit intimidating for divorced parties. As such, some couples decide to live together instead of tying the knot. Or, they decide to take it slow and get married after they’ve dated for at least two or three years. Remarriage may not be easy, but if you take your time to make sure it’s right, it can be everything you dreamed it would be.