Kelly Clarkson released a new album, Chemistry, at the end of June (with the deluxe edition released at the end of September). While many people, including those at The New Yorker, are referring to it as a divorce album, Clarkson does not want the album classified that way.
When discussing the album on the Today show, Clarkson had this to say about the album: “It’s a hard record. It was hard to make, but it’s also not just [about] the bad of a relationship. … I didn’t want it to be a divorce album; I wanted it to be a relationship album. And there’s good stuff on there, like ‘Favorite Kind of High.’ There’s good parts. [...] It wasn’t all bad, so I wanted to celebrate that as a whole.”
While Clarkson doesn’t label the album as a divorce album, those planning to file for divorce or going through a divorce may likely resonate with many of the songs on the album. On the whole, the album showcases what it looks like to reflect, heal, and work through the emotions brought on by divorce. In this blog, we will discuss what lessons can be taken from some of the songs on the album.
Skip This Part | The Emotional Impact of Divorce
In the opening song of the album, Clarkson begins with the line, "Can I skip this part? When I fall to pieces." This emotionally charged song encapsulates the pain, resilience, and self-discovery that often accompanies the end of a marriage.
Getting divorced can lead to many feelings, like grief, anger, and sadness. In this song, Clarkson highlights some of the sadder feelings that she had to work through following the end of her marriage.
The lyrics continue, "Back here at start. Need a time machine…" These lines reflect the feeling of being back at square one after a divorce. This can be a challenging place to be, but it's also an opportunity for growth and reinvention.
Mine | Track 2
The lyrics of "Mine" continue to paint a vivid picture of the emotional turmoil that often accompanies the end of a marriage. The opening lines, "You know I question every motive, everything you say," highlight the trust issues that can emerge in the aftermath of a failed relationship.
The song, in part, serves as a reminder to listeners about the importance of rebuilding trust, both in oneself and in others, during the healing process. A key theme in "Mine" is self-love and personal accountability. Clarkson initially blames herself for getting into a tumultuous situation, a sentiment that many divorcees may resonate with. However, as the song progresses, it becomes clear that she is learning to forgive herself, underscoring the importance of self-forgiveness in moving forward.
High Road | Having a Brave Face
The lyrics, "When I was young, my mother showed me / To become strong, you had to only / Cover your fears, don't show your lonely / Put others first," delve into the concept of putting on a brave face during difficult times, a sentiment that many divorcees can relate to. However, the song encourages listeners to prioritize their own needs and emotions, a critical step in the healing process.
The song title and lyrics can also serve as a reminder that you should consider taking the high road during your divorce. While you might be tempted to post something scathing about your ex online or send them an angry voicemail, that can detrimentally affect your case and be used as evidence against you. In these scenarios, it is in your best interest to take the high road—as it does protect and prioritize your needs.
Me | Rediscovering Yourself After Divorce
A key theme in the song is the importance of self-identity, particularly after a relationship's dissolution. This resonates with divorcees who may have lost themselves in their marriages and are now rediscovering who they are as individuals.
The dissolution of a marriage often triggers significant changes in lifestyle and identity, prompting individuals to redefine their sense of self outside the confines of a partnership. It's not uncommon for people to grapple with feelings of loss, confusion, and even fear as they navigate this new phase of life.
One of the most profound challenges is the sudden shift in daily routines. You may find yourself grappling with newfound responsibilities and tasks that were previously shared. This can be daunting, but it's also an opportunity to uncover strengths you never knew you had.
Identity, too, undergoes a seismic shift. Who are you when you're no longer someone's spouse? This can lead to an existential crisis of sorts. But remember, your value and identity are not tethered to your marital status. You are so much more, and this is your chance to explore that.
Coping with these challenges requires resilience, patience, and a lot of self-care. Prioritizing your well-being, both physically and mentally, is paramount during this time. Engaging in activities you love, practicing mindfulness, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle can all contribute to your healing process.
Reflection is another powerful tool in this journey. It allows you to understand what went wrong, learn from it, and ultimately grow. This growth, while painful at times, can lead to self-discovery and personal development.
In her Today show interview, Clarkson mentions that she uses her songwriting to reflect and heal. Maybe consider taking up journaling or another form of self-expression to help you reflect and navigate the transition.
Did You Know | Reaching a Place of Acceptance
One of the key themes in "Did You Know" is self-reflection. Clarkson poses a series of questions throughout the song, prompting listeners to reflect on their own experiences and feelings. This can be particularly therapeutic for those trying to understand why their marriage fell apart.
Another significant theme is acceptance. Despite the pain and disappointment expressed in the song, there's also a sense of coming to terms with the reality of the situation. This message of acceptance can provide comfort to those going through a divorce, reminding them that it's okay to acknowledge their feelings and that acceptance is a crucial step toward healing.
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