Nora Ephron's recent passing has brought out her legendary influence and impact on a world and many admirers of her views of divorce. One of her unforgettable contributions to the body of literature was her book Heartburn, which altered the conversation on divorce. Her husband at the time, Carl Bernstein, fueled the creation of her book (later made into a movie) due to his affair with a mutual friend.
Heartburn was one of the first books of its kind that influenced readers, especially women, to change the way they approached the subject of divorce. Ephron broke the glass ceiling by candidly writing about her divorce. Her book was not only an honest window into her feelings, but she was able to bring humor into the situation of divorce, as well. Ephron's clever ability to intertwine comic relief into her writing allowed the book to not be bashed as a bitter rant, but appreciated for the incredible ability to be candid and allow women to readily connect to similar challenges they personally faced.
One powerful scene in the book saw the protagonist realize that her husband would never change. Since he had cheated he will more than likely cheat on the his wife and marriage again in the future. While reflecting on other couples who have troubled marriages, she decides that she cannot make her husband respect or love her. In a moment of self-empowerment she picks up the key lime pie she made for the dinner party and throws it at her husband's face.
Some of her divorce quotes include:
- Never marry a man you wouldn't want to be divorced from.
- The divorce has lasted way longer than the marriage….the fact that I was divorced was the most important thing about me. And now it's not.
- Of course, there are good divorces, when everything is civil, even friendly….In my next life I must get one of those divorces.
Don't wait until your next life to get an uncontested divorce. An uncontested divorce is a way that you and your spouse can work out your differences in the least hostile form available. Why spend time and waste money on a dramatic divorce where a judge will make decisions for you instead of you making them for yourself through a marital settlement agreement?