Let’s face it, life’s transitions can be hard, no matter how simple they really are. If we’re smart, we plan in advance for the biggest transitions. When we’re in high school, for example, we strive for As so we can score well on our SATs and so we can get into the college of our choice.
When our first-born is ready for daycare or preschool, we carefully research the different facilities in the area and choose what’s best for our child. When we purchase airplane tickets, we compare fares with different airlines. Some of us will even clip coupons so we get the best deals on groceries.
Divorce is perhaps one of life’s biggest transitions, but it has a way of throwing some major curveballs. We may be great planners, but when we decide to divorce, it can be like one big, erupting volcano in our lives. We must remember, however, that like anything, we have a choice when it comes to how we react to our divorce.
When You’re at a Crossroads
When people decide to file for divorce, they are at a crossroads. Path one leads to contention and heartache, whereas path two leads to cooperation and a lot less stress. Which path will you consciously choose?
There’s no candy-coating it, divorce is hard! Too often, people allow themselves to get so clouded by their emotions that they say and do things they later regret and they fail to properly prepare.
They don’t necessarily rush to divorce, but once they decide to go, they pack their bags, slam the door and never look back – they leave in a hurry without making a plan.
It doesn’t have to be this way. When divorcing spouses agree to put their differences aside and cooperate with each other, they’ll find the divorce goes much smoother and it’s a lot less stressful, especially on the children who tend to get overlooked during the divorce process.
Some things to remember if you want a “positive” divorce experience:
- Practice empathy and forgiveness
- Take the highroad
- Take responsibility for your own actions
- Commit to improving your future
- If you have children, focus on their happiness right now
- Focus on bettering your life
- Close the door on the past so you can create your tomorrow
- See your future as a bright, exciting thing to look forward to
- Do something you’ve always wanted to do (e.g. take a karate class, go skydiving, or take up a new hobby)
If you and your spouse can agree to put your heads together and achieve a simple, uncontested no-fault divorce, you’ll be much better off than if you both argued and fought throughout the whole process.
If you believe that you can achieve this type of divorce, contact our office to learn about our no-fault divorces for as little as $249. The sooner you get started, the sooner you can begin the next chapter of your life. Contact us today for a free consultation!