If you’re married to an alcoholic or someone battling another form
of addiction, it’s probably taken quite a toll on your marriage.
If you’ve been trying to make your marriage work and you’re
running into a wall, the only way to put an end to your misery may be
to file for
If you’re like a lot of people, you may have not known your spouse
was an addict when you got married. After all, a lot of addicts are good
at hiding their addictions. Or, perhaps your loved one developed an addiction
afteryou took your wedding vows. Regardless of how it happened, you have plenty
of company. Millions of couples struggle with addiction.
The Spouse’s Predicament
For spouses married to addicts, they often find themselves stuck in heartbreaking
predicaments. Even though their spouses have flaws, they still love their
good qualities. For example, the addict may still be helpful around the
house, romantic, a good provider or a loving parent. The problem is that
the destructive behaviors tend to outweigh the addicts’ good qualities.
Does the above sound familiar? If so, you’ve probably been asking
yourself for some time: “Should I stay or should I go? When is enough,
enough?” Should you help them overcome their addiction, or is there
nothing left that you can do?
Eventually, it comes down to
your self-preservation. The issue is that addiction progresses and it leads
to self-destruction. It doesn’t get better unless the addict wants
to help themselves and they actually seek help and do what they’re
supposed to do. There is no shortage of treatment programs for alcoholism,
drug, sex, and gambling addictions. But at the end of the day, the addict
has to want to win the fight and get better. You can’t force it.
If you’ve done all you can do, at some point you may have to file
for divorce, especially if you have children who are witnessing the unhealthy
behavior. There is plenty of research that says that exposing children
to addiction can have long-term effects, including increasing their own
risk of developing addictive behaviors.
An attorney from our firm can offer advice about how to proceed with a
cheap, no fault divorce, even if your spouse is an addict.
Contact us today for guidance – we’re glad to help!