Divorce has this way of giving unhappy spouses a fresh start. While the first
six or 12 months may be hard, it’s also a time for quiet reflection
and for many, it’s a time for reinvention.
Not that people aren’t happy about who they are, but sometimes after
they’ve been in an unhappy marriage, they’ve neglected to
take care of themselves. They’ve spent so much time supporting the
family, their spouse and taking care of the kids, they’ve forgotten
all about what makes them happy.
When people are going through a divorce, often they’ll start to think
about self-care and more importantly, self-improvement. They could be
doing it for themselves, their children, or so they can feel good when
they start dating again. A lot of times it’s all the above.
Ways to Focus on Self-Improvement
Has the possibility of divorce gotten you thinking about self-improvement?
If you’re excited about focusing on yourself for a change, here’s
- Divorce is the BEST time to get healthy and in the best shape of your life.
This could include joining a gym, taking workout classes, hitting the
trails, or running around a high school track. The healthier you are,
the better you’ll feel.
- If you have a junk food habit, we recommend eliminating sugar, flour, and
processed foods, and eating as “clean” as possible.
- If you haven’t read in a while, now is a great time to catch up on
your reading. Select books that will nourish your soul and make you feel good.
Educate yourself on
finances. This can include reading books that will help you gain control of your
- Sign up for a class that you’ve always wanted to try, whether it’s
cooking, yoga, kickboxing, computers, or whatever floats your boat.
- If you’re in a dead-end job, now is a good time to sign up for a
continuing education class or revaluate your career. Would an advanced
degree or going to a technical school improve your situation and make
- If you want to make new friends, get out and about. Great places to meet
new people include gyms and classes at local rec centers and community colleges.
- If you can reasonably plan a short trip or two with your kids or friends
(or by yourself), do it. A trip can be a nice distraction and it may help
put things in perspective as you step away from your daily box.
In reality, nobody knows you like you do. If you yearn to have a better
life, what does that look like and what do you need to do to get there?
Write down your goals and break down the steps that you need to take to
accomplish them. Then, take action.
If anything about your marriage held you back, now is the time to visualize
your dreams and make them a reality. And remember, it starts with baby steps.