Everything you’ve done in recent months has built up to the moment when the
divorce is completed. You’re divorced, the worst is over and now it’s
time to embrace the next chapter in your life and your future. You may
feel relieved, or the finalization of your divorce may have caused other,
Regardless of how you feel about your marriage being officially over, here
are some words of wisdom from seasoned divorce attorneys who have seen
their clients go through it all.
1. Focus on your kids. If you have children with your ex, now is the time to spend a lot of quality
time with them. Reassure them that you love them and that the divorce
is not their fault (if they think it is). Not only spend time with them,
but encourage them to have open communication with their other parent.
Getting along with your ex is in the children’s best interests and it will help minimize the
effects of the divorce on them emotionally, and even academically.
2. Focus on yourself. If you’re like most spouses, the divorce affected you emotionally
and physically. Now is a great time to start focusing on your health and
general well-being, especially if the divorce has you feeling anger, sadness,
or resentment. Our advice is to eat right, exercise daily, get plenty
of sleep, and focus on doing things that will boost your energy, mood
and zest for life. This could mean reading, travelling, going to the mountains,
visiting friends and family, taking up a new hobby or falling back in
love with an old one.
3. Celebrate how far you’ve come. In recent months, your world was probably turned upside-down. Your living
situation, your financial situation, and your facetime with your kids
may have changed significantly, but there’s more changes on the
horizon. Sit down, celebrate how far you’ve come thus far and realize
there’s more in store, but now that you’re single, the future is
what you make of it!
4. Follow-up with your divorce attorney. Once the divorce is finalized, your automatic reaction may be to wash your
hands of it, but unless your divorce involved zero assets and debts and
no children, other issues could arise. Our advice is to follow-up with
your lawyer to ensure everything’s been handled. Is
child support being paid? Was the
marital residence sold and the proceeds split? Was your name removed from your
spouse’s auto loan? Have the retirement assets been divided? Is
child custody working out according to the agreement, or has it turned
out to be impractical?
5. Improve your financial health. This is critical for every divorced spouse. We highly recommend reviewing your
post-divorce budget and seeing what needs to be done to improve your financial health. Would
you benefit by going back to school? Are you up for a promotion, or are
you stuck in a dead-end job? Do you need to cut your living expenses while
increasing your income? These are tough questions for some, but they deserve
answers and the sooner you act, the better.
Money Advice for Divorcing Spouses
If you’re interested in obtaining a no-fault
divorce for just $219,
contact Cairns Law Offices today to meet with a Pennsylvania no fault divorce attorney.