Now that the holidays are quickly approaching, we’re entering that
time of year where unhappy spouses begin to question themselves about the
timing of their
divorce. If you’re on the brink of divorce, you may be thinking, “Should
I wait until after the holidays to file for divorce?” It depends
on your situation.
In our experience, the answer depends a lot on the individual’s family
traditions during the holidays and whether he or she has children from
the marriage. For childless couples, divorcing during the holidays isn’t
as much of an issue. For couples with minor children, the question comes
up more frequently.
Just because a couple has children, it does not necessarily mean they should
delay their divorce until after January 1st. It all depends on the family’s
individual circumstances. For example, if domestic violence is an issue,
it does not make sense to delay the filing of a divorce until after the
holidays. In that case, the innocent spouse would only be prolonging the
spousal or child abuse and that is not healthy by any standards.
If the home environment is highly stressful because the couple argues all
the time, filing for divorce before the holidays may be better for the
kids. Why? Because, by the parents physically separating from each other,
the children can enjoy peace at last. Children should not be exposed to
their parents fighting all the time; this is stressful for them.
Why Some Spouses Delay the Filing
There are definitely those spouses (with children) who decide to delay
their divorce filing until after the holiday season. Usually, these couples
are not creating high-conflict atmospheres at home. In fact, their children
may not be aware that a divorce is on the horizon. In these situations,
usually the parents delay their divorce because they want their children
to enjoy one last Christmas or Hanukkah as a family.
What about you, what should you do? It all depends on what life is like
at home. If you don’t have children, there’s nothing stopping
you from filing for divorce. If you do have children, take into consideration
the home environment. Is it healthy? If not, you may want to seriously
consider filing for divorce sooner than later. Only you know the best
answer for your personal situation.
To learn more about
our low-cost divorces,
contact Cairns Law Offices today!