If you’re like most adults in the United States, you log onto Facebook
at least once a day. You probably have an Instagram and Twitter account
too. While platforms, such as Facebook and Twitter can be great for staying
connected to friends and family, they can wreak havoc during the divorce process.
According to the
American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML), “If your status is separated or going through a divorce,
you might want to stay off Facebook.” Why? Because an “overwhelming
81% of the nation’s top divorce attorneys say they have seen an
increase in the number of cases using social networking evidence during
the past five years,” according to the AAML.
Social Media Can Hurt No-Fault Divorces
At Cairns Law Offices, we specialize in affordable, no-fault divorces in
Pennsylvania. Our clients do not file for divorce on fault-based grounds.
Instead, our clients collaborate to achieve a cheap, no-fault divorce
is a short period of time. If a client’s amicable divorce becomes
unfriendly or uncontested, we can no longer help them.
Since we strive to help people obtain
no-fault divorces for just $219, it’s very important that our clients continue to work with their
spouses to agree on a divorce settlement. In order to keep things peaceful
during the divorce process, we encourage our clients to be polite and
respectful to their spouses and this includes behaving on social media.
There are many ways that a friendly divorce can turn ugly with social media.
With that in mind, here are some things NOT to do on social media while
trying to achieve a no-fault divorce:
- Don’t switch your relationship status to “single” while
you’re still married. In fact, don’t switch it to “it’s
complicated either.” Our advice is to keep your status as “married”
until your divorce is finalized.
- Don’t badmouth your soon-to-be-ex on social media. This will only
antagonize him or her.
Do not post pictures of you drinking alcohol or partying during a divorce,
especially if you have minor children. Such pictures can affect
- Do not post pictures of you dating, or posing with a date. This can make
your spouse think you’re seeing other people and it can anger them.
- Don’t post about the divorce at all. Divorce is very private and
should be discussed with a best friend over a cup of coffee, not aired
out to 500 casual acquaintances on Facebook.
- Don’t post pics of you spending a lot of money as this can raise
red flags. In other words, avoid posting about costly vacations, expensive
restaurants, new cars, days at the spa, or other extravagant purchases.
During a divorce, you can take a hiatus from social media until it’s
over. Or, if you stay on social media, don’t post anything that
you wouldn’t want your spouse, their divorce attorney, or the judge
to see. This is the time to keep your posts clean, positive, and uplifting
– avoid posting anything that would cause someone to question your
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